In a recent poll women with PMDD, were asked to choose what they prefer to receive from their men in a demonstration of love & affection. Women were able to select more than one item, and were also given the chance to add their own poll items to the list in an attempt to make the poll more genuine.
The question asked in the poll survey was: “Your man wants to spoil you and asks if you like Chocolate or Flowers? What do you choose?”
The first three items added by me (with how they scored) were:
- Chocolates – 22
- Flowers – 13
- All The Above – 7
After the women added:
- Whatever comes from the Heart – 5
- Massage – 4
- Help with housework – 2
- Sex – 2
- A hand written love letter – 3
- A cooked meal – 2
- All of the above – 2
More added later:
- Champaign – 2
- Diamonds – 1
Chocolate is the winner!
Flowers or both flowers & chocolates were selected next, and whatever comes from the heart came in at no. 4 for this group of women.
PMDD or not women just love chocolate. While it may not be to good for the waistline, it sure makes us feel great! PMDD women are no exception to that rule.
Why Chocolate? If anything at all could make us happy during the luteal phase, (WORST PMDD TIME OF THE MONTH) chocolate would be it, as it is known for releasing endorphines and happy hormones.
A great scientific study would be on ‘the impact of chocolate on the PMDD brain‘ if it hasn’t already been done.
The trick guys, is to get to know your woman, understand her and support her because PMDD is no picnic – She’s sick and needs your support as well as your love and affection. Don’t take her moodswings, nastiness, innability to cope, depresson, rage and all that horrible hormonal stuff she’s putting you through personally, because she’d stop doing it if she could. So if you’re experiencing that the worst thing you can do is hate her for it and abandon her.
What support means to a woman with PMDD:
- Understanding her condition. Read as much as you can about PMDD so that you can empathise. After all you have to live with it too!
- Going with her to appointments in order to find something that works so you can both get your quality of life back. She may not be able to fully understand what she needs to do because the condition affects thinking processes.
- Take the kids out while mum sleeps.
- Don’t press her to go to social engagements because that’s the last thing she needs. She’s in no condition to do it mentally or physically during certain times of the month.
- Help her around the house and provide light healthy meals.
- Keep tabs on her condition. She might not be able to.
- Be her emotional support.
- Understand that this illness may be out of her ability to control. You may need to take her to hospital if she becomes suicidal or call your emergency lines. Australians call 000.
- Take good care of yourself. Get a good amount of sleep, eat well and get regular exercise.
NOTE: For PMDD Support – Join a Closed Facebook Group for Privacy.
There are also groups for those men who live with PMDD.