Refugees & Their Global Neighbours

Recently displaced people from war torn Syria and Iraq have traveled to foreign lands seeking refuge.

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There’s always a war going somewhere in the world. Recently the refugees from war torn Syria and Iraq have traveled to countries by land and sea using various modes of transport.  Many of them walked across borders to neighbouring countries with their families and in the desperation to leave a war torn land to find safety elsewhere, over 2000 displaced people fleeing for their safety by sea have drowned according to various news reports.

Their Neighbours

Many European countries are seeing an influx of refugees in their cities.  Some countries in Europe have closed their borders to refugees.

Countries like Australia are taking extra measures of precaution with offshore processing of refugees. While many people don’t agree with keeping people in detention centres who have already suffered trauma, some of us believe that the stance taken by the government is in our best interest for safety of Australian citizens.

Most of the refugees come undocumented from overseas without the proper documentation. In a country where it’s important to have our identity documented, we don’t really know who we are letting into our borders thus the belief that off shore processing serves its purpose.

Others protest that Australian methods of processing refugees is inhumane and that its also an unneighbourly act in keeping people and even whole families locked up who have already been through enough and who will eventually suffer with the mental health consequences of their incarceration on top of what they’ve already experienced.

We have to ask ourselves:

  • How well do we know our neighbours?
  • How are we as Australian citizens threatened by them?
  • Do we show them respect?
  • Is there room for improvement on how we process our refugees?
  • Is their more we can do to liberate their homelands?
  • Are we helping them with their mental health issues?
  • Are they having their basic needs and rights met?
  • Are the children safe and are they schooled?
  • Are they being taught to speak English while they are waiting to be processed?

What else can we do to help them? 

  • Try to understand them and their situation. Walk a mile in their shoes – What if you and your family were in their position?
  • Treat them like you would like to be treated. What would you expect?
  • Provide mental health support – They need to process their experiences.

Why?
Humans are of many ethnicities but we are of one race, the human race. We are all connected.  We have to treat others how we want to be treated.  It all comes back to us.

Recently the Daily Mail reported that Traffickers are luring people to Europe through Facebook.

Read – Australia’s response to the Syrian-Iraqi humanitarian Crisis.

By Sandra Ciminelli.

Similar Spanish & English Words With Absolutely Different Meanings

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Growing up in Australia but speaking Spanish in the family home had me living within 2 cultures and not exactly feeling like I was fully 100% Aussie nor Uruguayan.  I felt more like a hybrid.

The two languages were confusing at times, especially when similar sounding Spanish words to English had completely different meanings. I remember attempting to tell my mother that I was embarrassed, but the similar Spanish word I used actually means ‘pregnant!’  As you can imagine this was not received well in the ’70’s.

Here is a list of 12 Spanish words with their English meanings that I had to learn to be mindful of!

Exito
Similar to the English word ‘exit’
Spanish meaning = success
Spanish word for Exit = Salida

Sensible (pronounced ‘sensibleh’)
Similar to the English word ‘sensible’
The Spanish meaning = sensitive
Spanish word for sensible = Sensato

Embarazada
Similar to the English word ‘Embarrassed’
Spanish Meaning = pregnant
Spanish word for embarassed = Avergonzado

Campo
Similar to the English word ‘camp’
Spanish meaning = field
Spanish word for camp = Acampar

Fabrica
Similar to the English word ‘fabric’
Spanish meaning = factory
Spanish word for fabric = Tela

Ropa
similar to the English word ‘rope’
Spanish meaning = clothes
Spanish word for rope = Cuerda

Bigote
Similar to the English word ‘bigot’
Spanish meaning = mustache
Spanish word for bigot = Fanatico

Arena
Similar to the English word ‘arena’
Spanish meaning = sand
Spanish word for arena = Pista

Molesta
Similar to the English word ‘molester’
Spanish meaning = upset
Spanish word for molester = Molestador

Divertido
Similar to the English word ‘diverted’
Spanish meaning = fun
Spanish word for diverted = Desviado

Sin
Similar to the English word ‘sin’
Spanish meaning = without
Spanish word for sin = Pecado

Disgusto
Similar to the English word ‘disgust’
Spanish meaning = annoyance
Spanish word for disgust = Asco

Groseria
Similar to the English word ‘grocery’
Spanish meaning = vulgarity
Spanish word for grocery = comestibles

Compromiso
Similar to the English word ‘compromise’
Spanish meaning = commitment
Spanish word for compromise = comprometer

Carpeta
Similar to the English word ‘carpet’
Spanish meaning = folder
Spanish words for carpet = alfombra

  • Carpeta – suggested by La Rosi.  Thanks!

It’s no wonder that some Spanish speaking people find the English language somewhat difficult to master.

By Sandra Ciminelli 2016

Submission To One Another In Marriage

Harmonising a marriage is difficult but not impossible.

In my observations, the bible is taken out of context by some when it comes to women submitting to their husbands and vice versa.   A subservient 50’s style housewife is an out-dated picture that doesn’t fit with modern day masses of women holding full time working careers while taking care of their families.

Being submissive to our spouse isn’t a mindless act of subservience but instead it is an informed choice and an act of love and respect.  The bible calls for mutual submission of both men and women to each other. When a husband and wife act out of mutual submission, their love grows and flows into all aspects of their life including their intimacy.

Mutual submission and equality when it comes to love & respect in a marriage

From a Christian perspective, while we are to mutually submit to each other, we are also to treat our husbands with the love and respect they deserve. They too are to treat us with the same love and respect.

If I’ve learnt anything is that marriage shouldn’t be a struggle for power, but a union powered by love.  Yes, a power union!

What men and women need to keep in mind

A woman’s submission is not a license for a man to overpower a woman or mistreat her in any way.  A man’s submission is not a woman’s license to nag or say and do as she pleases.

Marriage is an ongoing commitment to love one another where submission to each other is purposeful in cultivating unity and intimacy in a relationship where couples can show appreciation and share loving affection for one another.  The bible says that man and woman become one flesh. This describes what happens spiritually and physically, but also mentally within the relationship and even though we are individuals, we become one.

When submission is not OK.

Husbands and wives aren’t to sin against God.  Nor are we to allow our husbands to cause us to sin.  This includes sexual sin.  We need spiritual boundaries!

 “A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.”  A quote from the book, ’Boundaries’ by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend have written another excellent book titled, “Boundaries within Marriage”. 

What about turning the other cheek?

Turning the other cheek does not mean turning a blind eye!  Nor does it mean we should allow a man or a woman to be violent against us, verbally, physically or otherwise. Mental abuse is as damaging as physical abuse.  Sin must be confronted.

Trust God

“I have plans not to harm you, but rather plans for you to prosper”.   Jeremiah 29:11

How to confront Sin

In everything we do, even when we are angry we are not to sin.  Ephesians 4:26

The bible instructs us to gently and humbly confront one another.  Galatians 6: 1-2

What you can do when you are angry to calm yourself down:

  1. PRAY – Pray for your husband or wife and spend time in prayer seeking the Lord before having this conversation asking for God’s direction and timing.
  2. REPENT – Search your own heart and repent of sins, now you’ve repented and are forgiven show your husband or wife  the same grace.
  3. RELEASE – Go for a walk to cool down then, determine to leave it in God’s hands once you’ve said your piece and let go of any unrealistic expectations.
  4. PRAY – Pray for your wife or husband seeking his/her wellbeing.
  5. FORGIVE – Forgive your wife or husband. When trust is lost it also becomes difficult to regain.  Marriage counselling can help couples learn to start over.
  6. TALK TO A CHURCH ELDER – If he continues to sin then talk to your church elders.
  7. SEEK COUNSELLING – Talk to a counsellor who is a trained listener.

By Sandra Ciminelli

Finding Help

Search for one near you www.theaca.org.au

Relationships Australia1300 364 277

24-Hour Telephone Counselling

Numbers to call if you or someone you know is thinking about suicide.

Lifeline on 13 11 14

MensLine Australia on 1300 789 978