By avoiding vulnerability we remain stunted and emotionally immature in areas where we refuse to feel.
Vulnerability is a difficult thing to master. Yet, it is in vulnerability that we cultivate courage within ourselves. I personally don’t like being vulnerable. There’s a creepy sense of transparency that makes me really uncomfortable. The shame of not being good enough or the dread of being judged by others is why I have avoided public speaking for years! Regrettably, It’s a real fear I’ve held onto instead of working through it.
Recently I’ve learned that the more that I allow myself to become vulnerable, the more growth I experience. Those people who practice vulnerability are generally seen amongst the most courageous, happy and intelligent people in society. How many public speakers do you know that don’t get nervous before making a speech? Not too many, right? Yet to onlookers they may look typically calm and collected.
It’s natural for us to protect ourselves from pain as we’re mostly inclined to shield ourselves from feeling anything negative. By avoiding situations that require a certain level of vulnerability we remain stunted and emotionally immature in those areas where we refuse to feel.
Vulnerability is essential for our personal, emotional and spiritual growth. By stepping out of our comfort zones we’re allowing ourselves to experience and grow. Speaking from experience, some of us tend to avoid it like the plague!
Brené Brown, Vulnerability Researcher summed it up perfectly when she said, “We numb vulnerability.”
Allowing myself to become vulnerable I got on a plane after 40 years of avoiding flying due to a bad landing experience during a storm in Tahiti when travelling as a young child. So, not long ago I booked a week long holiday catching a plane to Queensland with my husband and daughter. Since then I’ve been flying with my family and with work. It’s been fantastic and liberating. But, I still cringe at the landing!
So my motto now is, “Do it afraid!”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear or timidity, but one of power, love and self-control.”
Watch and listen to Brené Brown’s TED Talk, ‘The Power Of Vulnerability.’
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