We all have different personalities, temperaments and tolerances to certain things. Our self defense mechanisms are completely different from one another. We even pick and choose how we tackle problems, accusations and threats.
Strife doesn’t just get into our lives by accident. We invite it into our lives with fights, retaliation, lies and gossip. In return it will rob us of any possible inner peace. Strife destroys relationships with malice, envy, arguments, lies, gossip, slander and confusion. James 3:16, “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion….”
Giving into anger is the easiest invitation you can give to strife. We need to practice self control to keep our own emotions in check by thinking before reacting. Clear thinking enables us to make the right choices. Keeping the peace is the better choice.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that.” Martin Luther King Jr.
We need to responsibility for our own actions especially if we want peace
According to Dr. Caroline Leaf, “scientific research has shown that 87-98% of mental and physical and behavioral illnesses come from our thought life.”
If strife is controlling your life you may want to talk to your pastor or counsellor to learn different ways to handle difficult situations that lead to strife. Anger management classes might also help.
MY PERSONAL THOUGHTS
One of the things I personally can’t stand is Drama. Not the kind that is up on stage or on television, but the kind of drama that invites strife causing problems all round. I don’t allow anyone to steal my joy which to me is priceless. My inner peace can’t and shouldn’t be bargained with because my wellbeing and mental health depends on it, so I guard my heart.
When under attack sometimes the best defense is to simply walk away. Keeping my peace is more important to me than arguing with toxic trouble makers and liars who seem to revel in drama. I pick and choose my battles very carefully. Now I’m not saying be in denial. That’s a thing all together. Denial is pretending the issue doesn’t exist.
People need to be more self controlled and civil with each other. Anything else is an open invitation for strife.
HOW DRAMA & STRIFE GETS IN
- Drama in your life comes with an invitation to react. If you accept the invitation it will create strife in your life. Continue accepting invitations and you will never get rid of the drama in it either. Sometimes the best response is to not react & to walk away knowing that you have the upper hand. The result will be that you get to keep your peace. Don’t allow toxic people to steal your joy by feeding their addiction to strife with more drama.
- The other way strife gets in is if you cause problems continuously for others. Things like gossiping, lying, stealing, causing others harm and not taking responsibility for your own actions, blaming others, or lying about others for your own personal or financial gain invites strife in your life. Steer clear from these greedy and obnoxious types.
WISDOM FROM THE BIBLE
Proverbs 16:28 – “A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.
Proverbs 22:10 – “Drive out a scoffer, and strife will go out, and quarreling and abuse will cease.”
James 4:1 – “What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?”
Proverbs 20:3 – “It is an honour for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling.”
Repentance requires us to change and repentance brings about restoration to God. It’s a choice. You might like to pray about it as well.
Here’s an example of a prayer you might like to offer up.
Father in Heaven, you are goodness and light and you want us to be whole in mind, body and spirit. Forgive me for inviting strife into my life by reacting angrily to others. Make me an instrument of your peace. I repent and ask you to give me peace by removing the spirit of strife from my life and fill me with your Holy Spirit. Teach me your ways.
In Jesus name. Amen.
by Sandra Ciminelli
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